By Treva Susuras

Do you struggle with anger and have no reason why? In this day and time, we all have struggles. We say things we later regret, or do things were sorry for later. We lash out at the ones we love the most and later wonder why. There are many reasons we struggle in this area. Most of the time we are not even angry at the person we lash out at. It is most likely an unresolved feeling from past hurts.

Have you ever been upset about a situation, and one of your kids do something they would not normally get in trouble for, but because you are already upset, you lower the boom on them?

In a book I was reading by June Hunt she explains it the best way I can think of. She says this:

“Firefighters know the danger of letting a fire get out of control. They are trained to respond quickly. You, too, must respond quickly to control the flames of anger before they consume your life and leave a smoldering ditch of destruction.”

Don’t ever forget the enemy knows your past and will bring up what we will call triggers to set you off. As long as he can use these triggers, he will. Why should he change things when what he is doing is working out so well?

Maybe something in your past has hurt you and made you feel unloved, insecure, or not important at all…to anyone. And you grow up thinking you don’t matter to anyone. You are not worthy of love, and then every time someone makes you feel those feelings you get angry, hurt and even more bitter then you already are. You sometimes will take it out on the first innocent person passing by, or someone you love the most. These are unresolved feelings, and they are real. This can cause us to treat others unfair to the point of emotional or physical abuse.

Maybe you can’t live up to others expectations or maybe, just maybe, you can’t live up to your own expectations. There are even times we are angry because we don’t know what to do.

There is anger resulting from past hurts, rejection, injustice, fear, or even frustration.

Do your get angry? Does it come from past hurts or rejection? How about injustice. Times when it seems another person is not being fair to you. Times when your rights are being violated. Sometimes we fear what is coming in our future and that can make us pretty frustrated. Maybe we can’t live up to our own expectations.

I remember one time right after I had asked Christ into my heart and had made new Christian friends, I had decided to make a bible book bag. Now keep in mind I didn’t have any idea how to sew this. I just figured I could figure it out as I go. It looked simple right? I wanted one with the flat bottom. Not just an easy book bag but a really nice one. So, I started cutting and sewing and cutting and sewing and on and on and I got so frustrated that I couldn’t figure it out. Then I started getting down on myself. Are you Kidding, I can’t even do something so simple…bla, bla, bla? Getting more and more angry with myself and anyone that came in contact with me.

Well one if my friends came over and saw what I was doing and I will never forget what she said. Why are you setting yourself up for failure? See how it’s done, learn how to make it, then try again.

Sometime we set ourselves up for failure by doing things we have no idea how to do and never learning how first. We need to give ourselves a break, we don’t know everything.

Through all this we begin to look to other for our security, approval, love, and so on. We really need to look to Jesus for all this because He is the only one that understands us and His word say’s He will never let us down. Others will let us down, because they are people like us. If we can learn to overcome our anger no matter what is causing it, and run to Jesus, He will give us unconditional love, security, and significance.

When we feel angry, we must recognize it, see if we can figure out what is behind our behavior, cry out to God and He will help you. He is all we need. Now, that being said sometimes we need a little outside help. God uses people and if you need someone to help in this area or any other area, I will be glad to help. Call 281-868-0537 or Click below and leave your info and I will get back to you asap. Thanks for reading!